Divorce and Finances

  Two words that cause the most stress for people in the past and for years to come. One word we talk about daily the other word we never wanna hear.

Divorce:

 Like nails on a chalk board. Id rather shove my hand in a garbage disposal and flip the switch than go through another one of these. Talk about stress I spent 6 years in the air force working hours on end not getting proper sleep. Yet nothing could prepare me for the hell I was going to endure in this process. For men the process is not in our favor sometimes I felt like cutting off my balls to have a fair shot in court. But after the lawyer fees the court fees the months of going back and forth trying to figure out child custody of my young son I was broke. Broke but finally free good ridden's to the wicked witch that stole my money while we were together and got to take the rest of it in the end. If I had any advice for men going to go through a divorce or going through one it would be you may go through hell but the freedom after is worth any more time fighting with someone that has done you wrong or you just don't care about anymore. But the most important thing is recovering after the big D.

Finances after Divorce:

  This part may feel impossible but hey I bet you never thought you'd get rid of that broad. Save Save Save that is key to getting over this seemingly impossible hump in life. After my whirling wind of impossible shenanigans was over I felt I could breathe and relax but I was wrong it was the eye of the tornado soon came the overwhelming stress of starting over having to find a new place to live, new furniture, down sizing stuff, and trying to get back to financial freedom. At first I felt I couldn't save a penny, I was so strapped with financial obligations and you should be. I mean you are literally starting from scratch, after the divorce you pretty much are lucky not to be left with just your bare ass. Just thank god she didn't take that too, but after awhile you will start being able to save and that is important. Soon you will see your hard work paying off and guess what its yours. No snake to steal it from under your nose, and you've just went through an amazing life lesson just try not to make the same mistakes again but who knows what happens in the future. Just remember the positives of a divorce out way the hardship and the freedom will come just remember SAVE SAVE SAVE  

Life After The Military

  August 2008 18 year old me leaves for Air force Basic training in San Antonio TX. Having no idea what I was getting myself into I spent the next 6 years stationed in Wyoming providing security for the United States Nuclear Program. My sixth year I was still on the fence whether I was going to reenlist or get out. But 6 months before my separation date I made my decision to start a new life as a civilian.

  To me transitioning from military to civilian was very difficult. I believe it was due to being 18 when I joined I never experienced the normal struggles of being an adult. See the Air Force paid for my roof over my head they made sure I was feed and taken care of. The money I made was disposable income. It was as if I never left the nest, so at 24 I was 18 all over again but this time i had to figure out how to be a civilian no more luxury.

  At 6 months left in my enlistment i started trying to figure out where i was going to live what i was going to do for work and if i was going to go to college? For me I thought college was the best option but what did I want to learn or where did i want to go to school? after countless months of research I had a plan, I had saved as much leave as I could to get a head start at job searching before my military pay check stopped. For me the best option was to find a job that I qualified for that the military trained me for. I was lucky enough to find a good job that worked perfect for while i went to school.

  One thing I didn't really give no thought to was the mental and emotional change that happens once leaving the service. That was that I had spent 6 years being apart of something big and important. Once I left the Air Force I felt unaccomplished nothing would give me that feeling of importance and pride. To me that was the hardest change and the hardest part to overcome it took time and a change of attitude. I had to realize that things i was doing were important and i had to take pride in my work.

  If I had any advice for someone leaving the service and transitioning to civilian life. It would be to realize the changes not just financially but mentally and emotionally to prepare yourself for a shock. To focus on the little things and to find support don't think because you made it through the military that you are to macho for help we all need it and its always around us. Here is a link for websites that can help any vet in need, http://www.military-civilian.com/pages/helpful-links-for-veterans